I’m taking the month of January off to travel to Peru and go do my own inner work (getting an energy upgrade. And possibly an oil change). In the meantime, I’ve decided to give you a little treat and answer your LOA questions on Video for a change! How freaking exciting is that? Enormously. The answer is: enormously exciting. Someone out there is shitting kittens right now. You’re welcome.
Awesome Maria asks: “I have been noticing a pattern of my behavior when it comes to dating, and would like a little help in changing that cycle. I date someone and I am really into them. After a month or so I start to focus on something that really bothers me about them and I start to focus on it and end the relationship, because it bothers me so much that I am not happy. For example, I stop getting as much attention as I used to get, he’s not a good kisser, not connecting as much as we used to, etc. After breaking up, I start to miss them and realize that I can’t be focusing on the bad because I will end up with more of it, and that I am responsible for my own happiness, but it’s too late to reconcile. I sometimes feel like I just want to give up dating because it’s emotionally draining.
I have some ways to go with controlling my emotions, so does that mean that I will continue with this dating pattern until I get my emotions together? Some of my fears are getting hurt, them not liking me as much as I might like them, and missing out on someone better. Help!”
Dear Awesome Maria,
Here’s your video answer!
If, for some uncontrollable (you know, while I’m away with no access to the internet) reason the video above doesn’t show up properly, please click here and watch it directly on YouTube.
Let me know what you think! I assure you, I’ll be reading each and every comment when I get back!
Big smooshy hugs,